The judgement mao ?
Recently, one of my close friends told me that I am a guy who is not flexible in getting to know friends. Unfortunately, that is quite true. (-_-“). Well, I do not know about how people make friends, but I do classify them under different class – class mates, school mates, friends, close friends. The people under the friends list usually are people whom I look and treat differently. Others might find this weird, but to me, juding someone by their attitudes usually can tell whether is this person classify under the friend list or “something-mate” list.
Judging people usually means to see or analyze if the people around us are trustworthy, honest, or even just behaving and saying something that is of contradictory to what they are thinking in reality.
There are non-verbal cues which will allow us to draw conclusions about a person whether he is being honest and there are physiological affects when one lies. This would include the heartbeat increasing, the uptight feeling or the energetic feeling as adrenalin kicks in in an attempt to come up with a plausible story. This may lead to perspiration or dilation of the pupils and darting eyes.
Body language, Oculesics and many others like adaptors can give someone away if they’re lying, but however, there are two sides to the coin. What we can use to point out a lie can also help liars to prevent the potential slip.
By observing one’s actions after you have intentionally assured him of your trust in him, liars will tend to look around as an attempt to try calming oneself down and also in an attempt to look like he/she is feeling miserable. Sometimes, in order to make the opposite person trust in him/her, he/she will stare the other person straight in the eye while telling a lie.
Body language can also give way a lie as when someone lies, they tend to fidget more in an attempt to adapt to the heightened bodily reaction to the lie so that they will feel more at ease with the lie. Sometimes they even make use of emotions to help add on to their lie. By displaying anger or sadness, it affects the other party who is listening and causes them to either empathize or feel intimidated into believing their “story”.
Judging people usually means to see or analyze if the people around us are trustworthy, honest, or even just behaving and saying something that is of contradictory to what they are thinking in reality.
There are non-verbal cues which will allow us to draw conclusions about a person whether he is being honest and there are physiological affects when one lies. This would include the heartbeat increasing, the uptight feeling or the energetic feeling as adrenalin kicks in in an attempt to come up with a plausible story. This may lead to perspiration or dilation of the pupils and darting eyes.
Body language, Oculesics and many others like adaptors can give someone away if they’re lying, but however, there are two sides to the coin. What we can use to point out a lie can also help liars to prevent the potential slip.
By observing one’s actions after you have intentionally assured him of your trust in him, liars will tend to look around as an attempt to try calming oneself down and also in an attempt to look like he/she is feeling miserable. Sometimes, in order to make the opposite person trust in him/her, he/she will stare the other person straight in the eye while telling a lie.
Body language can also give way a lie as when someone lies, they tend to fidget more in an attempt to adapt to the heightened bodily reaction to the lie so that they will feel more at ease with the lie. Sometimes they even make use of emotions to help add on to their lie. By displaying anger or sadness, it affects the other party who is listening and causes them to either empathize or feel intimidated into believing their “story”.
posted by Boey Mao Qing at
11:22 PM
5 Comments:
true enough, body language do play a huge role in communications. as i talk to close friends, a change in the direction he is looking would tell me that he is hiding something unhappy from me. this is why the police intelligence use connectors to the computers to check for any discrepency to the person who is held in suspect to help them spot for a lie.
i guess it is only human natural reaction to have a change in the way we behave while telling a lie.
there is a famous phrase that goes 'the eyes are the windows to the soul'.
Body language is one of the key concepts in making friends. I mean, to really trust someone, you need to be able to communicate with your body language. For example, you wouldn't want to be friends who always keeps their distance from you, right?
For me, I always look at people in the eye whenever I talk to them. It lets them know that what I'm saying is real. Oculesics can help us know whether someone is lying or telling the truth. "Eyes are the windows to the soul"
Some people are very good liars. They are adept at masking suspicious body language, which lowers people’s guard against them. This is why terrorists and suicide bombers succeed in their task.
Whoa, Thats abit "chim". Haha. But one can really tell from the actions, whether he is liked or disliked. Eg. When you talk to someone and he shrugs you off, or simpily gave you a sloppy reply, you can tell that he doesn't want to be associated with you. However, if he engages in a conversation with interest, it shows that his impression for you is somewhat good.
there are obvious physical behaviors like dilation of pupils that can be metrically accounted for, hence masking body languages may fail.
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